11/23/09

Becoming the Stay-at-Apartment Wife

I married my best friend about four months ago. I was working at a job that wasn't really going anywhere for not-that-great of pay. The original plan was that I would continue working at this place while I either looked for a job in my field (I have a bachelor's degree) or went back to school. While I was on my honeymoon, my boss scheduled me for some weird hours. When I got back, I could not work most of the hours I was scheduled for...so with my husband's urging, I quit.


With the support of my husband (and entire family), I decided not to look for another job. Originally, I headed back to school for a paralegal certificate. I eventually figured out this was not the path I was meant to go down. I dropped my classes and am now a full-time stay-at-apartment wife.



It is a huge blessing to have a husband that supports me in staying home. I have so many opportunities. Sometimes I focus on baking or cooking something, other times I clean the bathroom top to bottom, read, sew, or spend time with my amazing mom. I also teach piano lessons to my younger sister and her friend. I am so thankful that I am able to stay at the apartment.



Sometimes, old friends or previous co-workers will ask, "What are you up to these days?" When I tell them I'm a stay-at-apartment wife I get responses varying from concern to disbelief. My favorite reaction was from a sarcastic former co-worker. He said, "Wow...way to be a drain on society." (Kidding of course...)


Sometimes it's a little bit intimidating to tell people that I don't have a job. I also know there are a too many times that I am not the most productive in a day...perpetuating the "sitting around eating bon-bons" stereotype. So far, my husband and I are very happy with this choice. I hope to focus on growing in my faith, cooking new and exciting things, doing sewing projects, scrapbooking, and making the apartment a welcoming place for my best friend to come home to every night.